Fixed it, I guess...
rebooted and it was still there, rebooted again and it kept quitting, but the dialog didn't come up, rebooted again and it was fixed...
some more smaller bugs...
I tried calibrating my display, saved the new profile as Color LCD Calibrated and it wrote over the original profile for the display, so now I can't go back to that, or re-calibrate again
tried opening a web page I was working on in Safari and IE, and neither program could find the file... tried dragging it, and tried opening it from the file menu, and nothing worked... finally realized it wasn't handling spaces in a folder name properly (users/myname/documents/new webpage/index.html) changed it to "newwebpage" and it worked